Discussion about this post

User's avatar
J Mann's avatar

The first thing I thought of with AI dating wasn't "can AI find me the perfect match" but rather "can AI coach me into the kind of person who gets matches that I value more highly?"

The cheap version would just be appearance - AI could help me write a profile or generate a picture or respond to texts in a more attractive way, but once everyone can do that, I imagine the value will be lower. There's an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm where Larry uses a therapist to try to become more attractive to his separated wife Cheryl in an effort to win her back, and Cheryl uses her therapist to judge when he's faking it - I could see AIs in a similar role.

The better version would be real coaching, and I find that much more appealing. Think of Bill Murray in Groundhog Day using his time loop to actually *become* Andy McDowell's perfect match. Again, I guess we'd all be competing on some kind of AI-powered treadmill, but optimistically, everyone's "datability" value would go up, so even if I was dating at the same point on the curve, the whole curve would be in a better place.

Expand full comment
Greg G's avatar

It's amazing how much of a free for all the thinking around AI is, with surprisingly terrible-seeming takes from people who are presumably very smart and thoughtful. The economists saying no one will lose their job to AI particularly stand out. It's ridiculous on its face! Copywriters and illustrators are already being affected, and it's definitely not going to stop there. I'm an optimist and expect us to either replace all those jobs and more or to end up being so productive that we an afford a UBI, but I just have to marvel at the level of apparent wrongness. The open source advocates are also up there. Open source is good, but with qualifications, and if you leave out the qualifications I just can't take you seriously.

I guess Covid was the same way, and it reminds me how messy the process of humanity coming to grips with new information is. I need to bake that concept into my thinking more deeply.

I think you gesture at this in the writeup, but yes, anyone who references people talking their books all the time is talking their book. It's all projection. He who mentions talking your book first in a debate obligatorily loses the debate, same as making an analogy to the Nazis. I don't make the rules.

Expand full comment
39 more comments...

No posts