It's been a while since I've used any of the dating apps. But 10 years ago they were a great way to meet people and find dates, at least in Chicago. Hinge was definitely the best. It's sad to read that it's deteriorated since then. Tinder was always borderline useless.
The way I stood out to my future spouse was by opening the app-conversation with a customized limerick based on what was in her profile. It's a little cringe, and a little try-hard, but it showed a sense of humor, intelligence, and was complimentary to her. A normal "what's up?" message might get a response rate of 5-10% or less. I'd say that writing them a poem multiplied that number by 5 or so.
I understand the hate on the PUA community. But I was a Magic-playing loner for much of college. When I decided I wanted to have relationships, I had nothing to work with. I dove down into that PUA rabbit hole, and didn't find much that worked. But their emphasis on "inner game" was a game-changer. It turns out I just had to be social, confident, and interesting. I joined a bunch of activities and stopped worrying so much about rejection. That probably took me from the bottom 20% of date-ability to the top 30%. That's a huge change! All that I'm saying is the "inner game pick-up artist" stuff works, and it's mostly fairly obvious stuff. It's actually essentially what much of this article was about.
Dating Roundup #1: This Is Why You're Still Single
It's been a while since I've used any of the dating apps. But 10 years ago they were a great way to meet people and find dates, at least in Chicago. Hinge was definitely the best. It's sad to read that it's deteriorated since then. Tinder was always borderline useless.
The way I stood out to my future spouse was by opening the app-conversation with a customized limerick based on what was in her profile. It's a little cringe, and a little try-hard, but it showed a sense of humor, intelligence, and was complimentary to her. A normal "what's up?" message might get a response rate of 5-10% or less. I'd say that writing them a poem multiplied that number by 5 or so.
I understand the hate on the PUA community. But I was a Magic-playing loner for much of college. When I decided I wanted to have relationships, I had nothing to work with. I dove down into that PUA rabbit hole, and didn't find much that worked. But their emphasis on "inner game" was a game-changer. It turns out I just had to be social, confident, and interesting. I joined a bunch of activities and stopped worrying so much about rejection. That probably took me from the bottom 20% of date-ability to the top 30%. That's a huge change! All that I'm saying is the "inner game pick-up artist" stuff works, and it's mostly fairly obvious stuff. It's actually essentially what much of this article was about.