Here are some specific issues that some male acquaintances have which mean I don't want to connect them with my single friends.
-Being flaky. Answer texts, show up vaguely on time, dressed appropriately for the event.
-Having no interest in what I have to say, like at all, when their issue is resolved/topic is finished. Now, I personally bear no grudges with this person, but if I were this person's girlfriend it would be really frustrating that every time the conversation turned to my topic, the attention would switch off.
-Condemning feminism a tad too much. Because I've had instances of the things feminism accuses men of (as have other women, but they view it differently, brush it off more, etc.). And I'd like to know that someone I was dating trusted me enough to be on my side if I claimed that my coworker Bob was promoted over me for being a guy, or that he made an inappropriate remark at me, and didn't think I was making it up.
-One guy and I were chatting and he expressed distaste at having to pay for the first date, like it's not fair. Maybe, but if you're living in a liberal city and looking to date a right-wing secular woman (a rare animal in such places, I hear), you probably need to step it up a notch and be the one to impress; the kind of girl you want, especially if she's from, say, Eastern European extraction, will expect some chivalry and also, the market is not on your side here.
Dating Roundup #1: This Is Why You're Still Single
Here are some specific issues that some male acquaintances have which mean I don't want to connect them with my single friends.
-Being flaky. Answer texts, show up vaguely on time, dressed appropriately for the event.
-Having no interest in what I have to say, like at all, when their issue is resolved/topic is finished. Now, I personally bear no grudges with this person, but if I were this person's girlfriend it would be really frustrating that every time the conversation turned to my topic, the attention would switch off.
-Condemning feminism a tad too much. Because I've had instances of the things feminism accuses men of (as have other women, but they view it differently, brush it off more, etc.). And I'd like to know that someone I was dating trusted me enough to be on my side if I claimed that my coworker Bob was promoted over me for being a guy, or that he made an inappropriate remark at me, and didn't think I was making it up.
-One guy and I were chatting and he expressed distaste at having to pay for the first date, like it's not fair. Maybe, but if you're living in a liberal city and looking to date a right-wing secular woman (a rare animal in such places, I hear), you probably need to step it up a notch and be the one to impress; the kind of girl you want, especially if she's from, say, Eastern European extraction, will expect some chivalry and also, the market is not on your side here.